Don’t let your circumstances define your destiny

August 1998 I was a scared 17 year old that just brought home an infant on oxygen and an apnea monitor after watching him struggle for his life in the NICU. He was 88 days old when I finally cared for him on my own. Was I prepared? Nope. Was I scared? Hell yes. Did I let my circumstances define me and determine our future? Nope. I pushed through college part time, lived at home for awhile, worked and bought us our first home at the age of 21. (With my parents co-sign of course). Shortly after that I met my husband, and the best stepdad, graduated with my bachelor’s degree and had 2 more boys.

August 2017 I am the proud mother of an intelligent, confident and healthy 19 year old young man that is starting his adult life at Saginaw Valley State University! All I ever wanted was for him to be healthy and have opportunities that I did not. Today is the first step towards him accomplishing more than I ever did. He is moving out and going away to college!! The only thing standing between him and whatever he wants to accomplish is himself.

Motherhood

Being a mom is hard work. This blog is really great at putting things into perspective and adding a little humor. I found true joy recently as a mom when I stopped comparing myself to other moms and accepted who I am. I still find inspiration in others moms and try to improve on my approach (yelling less, more patients, etc.) but don’t measure my worth against them. I am a very unique individual and mom and my boys would have it no other way. Michelle is my friend and one of the many moms that inspires me to be better. Her blog is great!

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Motherhood….

  • it ain’t for the faint of heart
  • it is often thankless
  • it is beautiful (and it is a mess)
  • is not the same for everyone – it comes dressed up in different clothes, is achieved through many different methods and definitely doesn’t fit into some mold or come from a cookie cutter
  • it is the hardest and best job you’ll ever have (unless your job is giving away someone else’s money to help worthy causes and then it might be a tie)
  • it is so many things and is so simple all at once

The list could go on and no doubt, having just passed Mother’s Day, your own ideas and feelings about motherhood are fresh in your mind. Here’s what I’ve been thinking.

a) I don’t always know what I’m doing. It sucks that there is not a how-to manual or a choose-your-own-adventure style manual (e.g., “If your…

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