Don’t let your circumstances define your destiny

August 1998 I was a scared 17 year old that just brought home an infant on oxygen and an apnea monitor after watching him struggle for his life in the NICU. He was 88 days old when I finally cared for him on my own. Was I prepared? Nope. Was I scared? Hell yes. Did I let my circumstances define me and determine our future? Nope. I pushed through college part time, lived at home for awhile, worked and bought us our first home at the age of 21. (With my parents co-sign of course). Shortly after that I met my husband, and the best stepdad, graduated with my bachelor’s degree and had 2 more boys.

August 2017 I am the proud mother of an intelligent, confident and healthy 19 year old young man that is starting his adult life at Saginaw Valley State University! All I ever wanted was for him to be healthy and have opportunities that I did not. Today is the first step towards him accomplishing more than I ever did. He is moving out and going away to college!! The only thing standing between him and whatever he wants to accomplish is himself.

One of my favorite tools! 

OK, just finished my morning run and I had a lot on my mind. I love helping people and answering their questions but sometimes it gets frustrating when people are texting me the most basic things. I can give you advice but ultimately you need to take the steering wheel and drive. It’s your life and you’re responsible for your success. In this video I shared my favorite tool and I hope you start using it more often.

Life is too Short not to Live


This happened to me about 8 months ago. I found myself unhappy, angry, stressed and definitely not the best version of me. Someone had asked me what I would be remember for if I died tomorrow. I thought to myself, probably an angry stressed out mom that only focuses on the negative. Wow, that hurt. That was not how I wanted to be remembered. Was my job and career really worth all of that? Absolutely not. I quit my full time job and pursued my passion. I now have more time for my kids, my husband and myself. I can’t say that I am not still a little stressed out each day but that is pressure I apply to myself. I hold myself to very high standards and am always pushing to be better than I was yesterday.

Take some time this weekend and reflect on who you are, how you act and how you would be remembered.  Life is very short and we cannot change the past; however, we can start writing the next chapter.  How do you want your story to go?